Hey, everyone!
So I'm gonna try to start posting some more, which is a good thing cause I have a lot to talk about. But if any of you have any suggestions on what you would like me to talk about, I could definitely think about it, pray about it and possibly even post about it. Also I updated the look to this page so I hope you all like it
Life update
- I am now in my "half way there" marker with my senior year. It's exciting, scary and maybe a little sad. Seems like yesterday I was walking to class with my parents trailing behind me with a video camera in hand, videoing the entrance of my first day of school.
That's all I have as far as updates go.
Today I want to talk about boundaries. I'm reading a book called boundaries by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. I'm gonna start in chapter 2 and skip around, saying what stuck out to me and what I feel seems more important. Feel free to follow along by chapter to what I talk about or if you do not have the book just sit back and relax. (quotes are straight from the book)
Invisible property lines and responsibility
It is said that Boundaries are what define us.
Me and not me
The main goal of this chapter is to define your boundaries and recognize them as your reality to life that might even save your life. With Boundaries and knowing how far they range and what is crossing the line, we can do what we like within those boundaries. Otherwise Life becomes limited.
" think how confusing it would be if someone told you to "guard this property diligently , because I will hold you responsible for what happens here," and then did not tell you the boundaries of the property. Or they did not give you the means with which to protect the property? This would be not only confusing but also potentially dangerous"
Boundaries are what help us define what is in our soul, help us define what is our property and what is not our responsibility.We are not commanded to have "other-control even though in reality, we spend a lot of time doing so.
God and Boundaries
Boundaries naturally come from the nature of God. He is responsible for himself, just like we are. He uses boundaries through His personality and how he Guides us and what He tells us. He tells us that He is love and that He is not darkness (1 John 4:16; 1:6)
Did you know that He has boundaries in the Trinity. The Father, son and the Holy spirit are one, but at the same time they are distinct persons with their own person hood and responsibilities, as well as conviction and love for one another (John 17:24)
Good in and bad out
"In short, boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out. They guard our treasures (Matt 7:6) so that people will not steal them. They keep the pearls inside, and the pigs outside."
The bible backs up "confessing pain and sin helps to "get it out". "( 1 John 1.9; James 5:16; Mark 7:21-23)" boundaries are not meant to be walls to others, but as"one" (John 17:11)
Examples of boundaries
Boundaries help differentiate us from someone else and shows where we begin and end.
So I'm gonna try to start posting some more, which is a good thing cause I have a lot to talk about. But if any of you have any suggestions on what you would like me to talk about, I could definitely think about it, pray about it and possibly even post about it. Also I updated the look to this page so I hope you all like it
Life update
- I am now in my "half way there" marker with my senior year. It's exciting, scary and maybe a little sad. Seems like yesterday I was walking to class with my parents trailing behind me with a video camera in hand, videoing the entrance of my first day of school.
That's all I have as far as updates go.
Today I want to talk about boundaries. I'm reading a book called boundaries by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. I'm gonna start in chapter 2 and skip around, saying what stuck out to me and what I feel seems more important. Feel free to follow along by chapter to what I talk about or if you do not have the book just sit back and relax. (quotes are straight from the book)
Invisible property lines and responsibility
It is said that Boundaries are what define us.
Me and not me
The main goal of this chapter is to define your boundaries and recognize them as your reality to life that might even save your life. With Boundaries and knowing how far they range and what is crossing the line, we can do what we like within those boundaries. Otherwise Life becomes limited.
" think how confusing it would be if someone told you to "guard this property diligently , because I will hold you responsible for what happens here," and then did not tell you the boundaries of the property. Or they did not give you the means with which to protect the property? This would be not only confusing but also potentially dangerous"
Boundaries are what help us define what is in our soul, help us define what is our property and what is not our responsibility.We are not commanded to have "other-control even though in reality, we spend a lot of time doing so.
God and Boundaries
Boundaries naturally come from the nature of God. He is responsible for himself, just like we are. He uses boundaries through His personality and how he Guides us and what He tells us. He tells us that He is love and that He is not darkness (1 John 4:16; 1:6)
Did you know that He has boundaries in the Trinity. The Father, son and the Holy spirit are one, but at the same time they are distinct persons with their own person hood and responsibilities, as well as conviction and love for one another (John 17:24)
Good in and bad out
"In short, boundaries help us keep the good in and the bad out. They guard our treasures (Matt 7:6) so that people will not steal them. They keep the pearls inside, and the pigs outside."
The bible backs up "confessing pain and sin helps to "get it out". "( 1 John 1.9; James 5:16; Mark 7:21-23)" boundaries are not meant to be walls to others, but as"one" (John 17:11)
Examples of boundaries
Boundaries help differentiate us from someone else and shows where we begin and end.
- skin-A Basic boundary referred to as your skin can be used as a metaphor that keeps the good in and the bad out and protects your bones, muscles, blood and organs, holding them all together.
- words- basic boundary setting word is "No". referred to as a confrontational word. The bible says in Matthew 18:15-20 say no to others sinful treatment to us. Thinking of things of which you "should do" is keeping you from enjoying the fruit of "self-control". Be specific in your words of where you stand. for example- "I like banana's but, I hate lemons!" lets others know what the rules of your yard is. (some phrases from the book)
Truth
I love when it says "realizing the truth of his unchangeable reality helps you define yourself in relation to Him: When He says that you will reap what you sow. (Galatians 6:7)
and
"Honesty about who you are gives you the biblical value of integrity, or oneness"
Geographical Distance
Proverbs 22:3 says that :the prudent man sees the evil and hides himself."
I agree with the book when it says that "sometimes physically removing yourself from a situation will help maintain boundaries."
Limiting togetherness is also limited for the sake of binding evil.
Ok, so in part 2 I will go into great detail about:
-time
-emotional distance
-other people
-consequences
-what's within my boundaries?
-feelings
-attitudes and beliefs
and in part 3
-behaviors
-choices
-values
-limits
-talents
-thoughts
-desires
-love
withing the next two weeks!
To end part one to our Boundaries sermon, I'm gonna let you listen to my newest favorite song.
-taming
Wildatheart
